Receiving news of a cancer diagnosis in a family member specifically our mother can be a challenging experience for her, her children, and the rest of the family. It is crucial to remember that looking after the mental health of the entire family unit is of the utmost importance during this time. Here are some practical tips for families whose mothers have been diagnosed with cancer:
1. Maintain open and honest communication: It is important for family members to have the space and freedom to express their thoughts, emotions, and concerns regarding the illness. Setting aside regular times to talk and share any concerns that arise can be beneficial; this helps foster an environment of trust and mutual support.
2. Educating oneself about the disease: It is important for children (and other family members) to learn about the disease from safe and reliable sources. Understanding potential treatments, side effects, and short- and long-term expectations can help them better comprehend and manage the situation. Gaining knowledge can also alleviate anxiety and help them formulate specific questions to discuss with doctors, thereby increasing the sense of control for the patient and the family as a whole.
3. Do not neglect your own health: It is essential for children and other family members to look after their own health during this time. Trying to maintain an exercise routine, eating well, and getting enough rest are key elements; however, needs will be as unique as each individual, making it crucial to constantly monitor specific needs throughout the process. It is worth remembering that taking care of yourself will better prepare you to support Mom and help maintain your own mental well-being.
4. Fortalecer la red de apoyo: 4. Identifying and strengthening support networks which may include family members, close friends, or even community support groups can provide a solid system for talking, seeking advice, and receiving practical support.
5. Seek external support: There is no need to go through this challenging experience alone. Seeking external support—such as support groups for family members of people with cancer or therapy with a psychology professional—can be highly beneficial. These professional support networks can provide a safe space to share experiences and receive additional guidance.
Prepared by:
Psicóloga Susana Zelaya
